I recently started following a twitter account called the 'Good wife's guide'. Who's motto is,
'A good wife knows her place'.
To be totally honest I wasn't sure if this was a joke at first!. But it did get me thinking about the modern family, the divorce rate and split families.
May I just add I have nothing against divorce, my parents split after 25 years of marriage. And I especially have nothing against one parent families. There are many mothers and fathers out there doing the most AMAZING job raising children alone. I salute them!. My mum is one of the most inspirational women I know. Even at the age of 27 I could not do without her.
What am I saying is that perhaps we need to take a step back and look at the 'vintage' family. Look at your grandparents, I'm pretty sure most of them are still together and have been for a very long time. My nan and late grandpa were together from a very young age and right up until my grandpa passed away were soul mates. They always will be. But the point here is not really about parents 'staying togther'. Its about the morals and ideas that the idealistic 1950's family had.
I love the old fashioned family unit and I don't think its a bad thing to bring some of these values into the modern family. And I'm not talking about chaining the wife to the kitchen sink!.
I'm talking about spending quality time together as a family, respecting each other. Sitting down together at meal times.
RESPECTING ELDERS!. In the 1950's Sunday would be the day to attend mass, mow the lawn and chat to your neighbours. Does anyone even talk to their neighbours anymore?!. Or are we all consumed in the modern life. Workaholics, tele addicts??.
I try my best to have a good balance in my family. I love the homemaker role yet I still have my work. I try and incorporate the old values and views into our family without upsetting our 21st century lives.
The simplest things can make such a difference!.
So maybe we should see if the 'Never had it so good' attitude can enrich our lives. In marriage, work, friendships. Life in general. I wonder if we still had such respect and morals, similar to the 1950's, whether our country might be in a completely different state of affairs. Would the looting never had happened, would unemployment not be an issue, would it be safe to walk down the street late at night. I wonder...
What do you think?.
Lauren x
What do you think?.
Lauren x
people think nothing of spending 10,000 pounds on a wedding, usually to show off to friends and family, then throw it all away after they realise they dont even like each other that much. In the old days, you made your bed and there fore were expected to lie in it, women didnt work as much and so had more time to spend with their families, and now everyone wants so much more, keeping up with the joneses was about who made the nicest cake or could grow the best potatoes, now it's about who's kid has the latest xbox. Times have changed, and not necessarily for the better. Just my opinion....!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more! Although one set of my Grandparents are divorced and have been for about 30 years, and I have grown up in a single parent household, I think this has made me even more keen to make sure I enter marriage under completely the right circumstances and balance my life the best way I can. My great Aunt and Uncle are the perfect example of a couple, they met when they were fourteen and are still perfectly happy to this day (he calls her Tubs which I find the cutest thing ever!) x
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